Planned Ignoring: A Powerful Strategy for Addressing Unexpected Behaviors

​As caregivers, educators, or parents, we are all too familiar with unexpected behaviors that can disrupt routines and cause distress. From tantrums and meltdowns to attention-seeking behaviors, dealing with these challenging moments can be overwhelming and draining. But what if there was a simple yet effective strategy that could help address these unexpected behaviors in a positive and proactive way? Enter planned ignoring. Planned ignoring is a deliberate strategy that involves purposefully ignoring certain unwanted behaviors in order to reduce their frequency or intensity. While it may seem counterintuitive to turn a blind eye to disruptive behavior, planned ignoring can be a powerful tool for shaping positive behavior and promoting positive attention-seeking strategies. One of the key principles of planned ignoring is to withhold attention or reactions to behaviors that are attention-seeking or otherwise reinforcing for the individual. By not engaging with the behavior, the individual receives the message that the behavior is not effective in achieving the desired outcome, and may be more inclined to try alternative, more positive strategies for gaining attention or meeting their needs. It is important to note that planned ignoring should be used selectively and with care. It is not a one-size-fits-all solution and may not be appropriate for all situations or individuals. Before implementing planned ignoring, it is essential to consider factors such as safety, individual needs, and the underlying reasons for the behavior. When using planned ignoring, it is important to have a clear plan in place. This may involve setting specific criteria for when and how to implement the strategy, as well as identifying alternative, more positive behaviors to reinforce. Consistency and follow-through are also key components of effective planned ignoring. It is also important to remember that planned ignoring should be used in conjunction with other positive behavior support strategies and interventions. In some cases, a more comprehensive approach may be necessary to address underlying sensory, emotional, or other needs contributing to the behavior.  Planned ignoring can be a valuable strategy for addressing unexpected behaviors in a proactive and positive way. By understanding the principles of planned ignoring and implementing it thoughtfully and consistently, caregivers and educators can help promote positive behavior and support the development of more adaptive coping strategies.
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