In today's tech-savvy world, screens are everywhere - from smartphones and tablets to computers and televisions. For parents of toddlers, navigating the complexities of screen time can be a daunting task. How much is too much? What are the potential risks and benefits? How can we strike a balance between allowing our children to explore technology and ensuring they engage in other important activities for their development? Let's delve into the digital dilemma of screen time for toddlers.
The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends limiting screen time for toddlers aged 18 months to 2 years to high-quality programming, with a maximum of one hour per day. For children aged 2 to 5 years, screen time should be limited to one hour per day of high-quality programming, with caregivers co-viewing and engaging with their child. These guidelines are based on research that suggests excessive screen time during early childhood may have negative effects on development, including delays in language and social skills.
So how can parents navigate screen time responsibly for their toddlers? One important aspect to consider is content. Not all screen time is created equal, and it is crucial to prioritize high-quality, educational programming that is age-appropriate and engaging. Look for programs that promote learning, stimulate creativity, and encourage social interaction.
Another key factor to consider is the context in which screen time is used. Co-viewing with your child and engaging in discussions about what they are watching can enhance the learning experience and foster meaningful interactions. Setting limits and boundaries around screen time, such as designated "screen-free" zones and times, can also help establish a healthy balance.
It is also important to consider the potential risks of excessive screen time, such as sedentary behavior, disrupted sleep patterns, and reduced time for hands-on exploration and social interaction. Encouraging physical activity, outdoor play, and interactive play with toys and books can help offset the negative effects of screen time.
As with any aspect of parenting, it is essential to trust your instincts and know your child's unique needs and preferences. Every child is different, and what works for one may not work for another. By being mindful of the amount and quality of screen time your child is exposed to, and by fostering a well-rounded environment that includes a variety of stimulating activities, you can help your toddler navigate the digital world in a healthy and balanced way.

​As caregivers, educators, or parents, we are all too familiar with unexpected behaviors that can disrupt routines and cause distress. From tantrums and meltdowns to attention-seeking behaviors, dealing with these challenging moments can be overwhelming and draining. But what if there was a simple yet effective strategy that could help address these unexpected behaviors in a positive and proactive way? Enter planned ignoring. Planned ignoring is a deliberate strategy that involves purposefully ignoring certain unwanted behaviors in order to reduce their frequency or intensity. While it may seem counterintuitive to turn a blind eye to disruptive behavior, planned ignoring can be a powerful tool for shaping positive behavior and promoting positive attention-seeking strategies. One of the key principles of planned ignoring is to withhold attention or reactions to behaviors that are attention-seeking or otherwise reinforcing for the individual. By not engaging with the behavior, the individual receives the message that the behavior is not effective in achieving the desired outcome, and may be more inclined to try alternative, more positive strategies for gaining attention or meeting their needs. It is important to note that planned ignoring should be used selectively and with care. It is not a one-size-fits-all solution and may not be appropriate for all situations or individuals. Before implementing planned ignoring, it is essential to consider factors such as safety, individual needs, and the underlying reasons for the behavior. When using planned ignoring, it is important to have a clear plan in place. This may involve setting specific criteria for when and how to implement the strategy, as well as identifying alternative, more positive behaviors to reinforce. Consistency and follow-through are also key components of effective planned ignoring. It is also important to remember that planned ignoring should be used in conjunction with other positive behavior support strategies and interventions. In some cases, a more comprehensive approach may be necessary to address underlying sensory, emotional, or other needs contributing to the behavior.  Planned ignoring can be a valuable strategy for addressing unexpected behaviors in a proactive and positive way. By understanding the principles of planned ignoring and implementing it thoughtfully and consistently, caregivers and educators can help promote positive behavior and support the development of more adaptive coping strategies.
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